“Real personal safety calls for nothing less than the re-awakening of instincts that allow for early recognition of danger, the skills and strategies to diffuse and escape violence, and the ability to mobilize deep-seated primal powers to fight off attack.
It commands a monumental shift in women’s self perceptions, the channeling of intense emotions, and unlocking a power and authority women often don’t know they posses. It taps into what Soalt calls, Fierce Love and a knowing in one’s heart: What is worth fighting for? What is non-negotiable? Where do I draw that line? ”
Self Defense From The Inside Out.
I want to be kick ass! women blurt out with gusto. Great!, I say. But understand this: Self defense is an inside-out job. Before branding ourselves “toughees” or oiling our biceps we need to look inward and dig down. Here’s a critical question– “Where will YOU go inside yourself amidst the shock and chaos of an assault to mobilize focus, power, presence of mind, and to free your fear and call up courage with the whole of your heart? (Not to mention contending with the effects of an adrenaline-spiked cocktail pumping through your veins which can just as easily hijack your thinking-brain as gift you with super power.)
How will you collect yourself and command wild emotions to rally in formation, your subatomic self forging an iron will? And do this in a heartbeat, in mere ticks of the clock because seconds count.
The Good News Answer: There IS such a place, a zone and a way to rapidly mobilize this power. The path to arousing primal power is akin to arousing female desire — it taps a network of feelings, a circuitry not only rooted in biology but other internal places spanning body, heart and soul. It takes us into a place and capacity that lives far below topsoil of every day selves. Yet for many this capacity has been rendered dormant, buried beneath fear, switched off by conditioning of one kind or another, or simply atrophied by lack of use. It needs to be turned back ON, nurtured, embraced, and instructed, then kept on like a pilot light’s flame which can be adjusted as needed. In the Moment of Truth all systems must be GO!
What’s Been Amiss: Looking for Power in all the Wrong Places
The Female Way
For most women, sourcing power and the warrior spirit is more INTERNAL, intimate, and directly connected to feelings. It is as much about working “in” as working out.
It entails calling up will-power from our deepest emotional reserves; drilling down for strength and to access grit. It means pulling power from terror and fury itself, and the taking or summoning of courage…
In other words, for women, fighting spirit and the directive to physically self defend doesn’t necessarily originate in our bodies and brain wiring or just from our guts, or from knowing a strategy in our heads, or even from the charge of adrenaline. It often arises in a completely different organ: The Heart. It arrives via the emotional and feeling body. And for many, from a place that is both spiritual in nature AND connected to our female-animal survival instincts which need to be leveraged.
This retrieval of power can happen in a second once a woman discerns where she draws that line, what is not negotiable, uncompromising, and worth fighting for.
The Power of Female LOVE and Ferocity
Women often find their greatest strengths and abilities thru feelings of love of one kind or another. Where there is love, there is ferocity which naturally arises to then protect what a woman loves or holds sacred. Be it safeguarding her boundaries, her body, her own life or the lives and sovereign dignity of her loved ones.
When I talk about ferocity I don’t mean hatred or recklessness but rather a powerful surge of forceful, directed, maddening energy – whether it’s driven by fear, fury, love or survival.
It’s a willful committed uninhibited force. It is the fevered taste, the already whetted appetite of a hungry lioness; it’s what allows us to punch, tear or claw our way out of darkness or an overwhelming life dilemma. Ferocity is that BIG bolus of juice, of toughness that enables us to swim upstream and fight uphill aided by defiance, a gnash in the teeth, and a singular focus to see our way through to the other side.
In context of self defense its purpose is to preserve life and dignity — not to ‘teach him a lesson or make ’em pay.’ It is not rooted in revenge.
The thing about ferocity is that it not only boosts our physical strength, but it dissolves inhibitions so it’s a superpower for women, akin to what traditionally has traditionally been “killer instinct’ — a term which often chafes against women’s empathetic nature and sense of connected-ness- including my own.
Yes, even I, decades later have a hard time spitting out the term “killer instinct” and much prefer “ferocity”
Ferocity is what clears the path, enabling a woman’s force to emerge FULL force and with FOCUS. Not a reckless emotional bomb.
And maybe ferocity isn’t just an attitude but a destination, a zone within. A place and sense of Being that is more primordial. Not unlike the ferocity of childbirth.
Ruthless: Methods & Philosophy – How to get your ‘heart on’
Although many can teach tactics and tools, Soalt believes that only a female can bring other women into this ‘primal zone’ within themselves. The courage and skills to safeguard boundaries and summon one’s might in the face of fear is best transmitted and realized through a female role model….”
To get your mojo pumping and back online Below are my essential four SD components and means to clearing the path, reinstalling your power, deflating your fear, working your emotions, and arriving at that sweet spot, where the outer layers of fear burn off to reveal something far more fearsome. It’s Womanly. It’s Primal. Read on……”